The Love Misconception

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We live in the city of brotherly love, but what does love really mean? We all know that it isn’t quite how Disney portrayed it at the end of Cinderella, when we get to ride off into the sunset with our prince charming. Yet love is not painful, hurtful, distrustful, or violent like many women are lead to believe every day. Between 600,000 and 6 million women are victims of domestic violence each year and some studies suggest that at least 3.3 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually. Domestic violence is not love.

If love is not violent and it is not fairytale- then what is it? We at Hazael Haven believe in God’s definition of love. We believe that “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

Love is kind. It is whole. It is fulfilling. It is joyful. One in four women has experienced domestic violence in her lifetime, and we need to stand up for them. We can help them to know they are loved, not like the movies and not with an iron fist, but with real love.

Stand up with us.

Resources:

(Carlson, Bonnie E. (1984). Children’s observations of interpersonal violence. Pp. 147-167 in A.R. Roberts (Ed.) Battered women and their families (pp. 147-167). NY: Springer. Straus, M.A. (1992). Children as witnesses to marital violence: A risk factor for lifelong problems among a nationally representative sample of American men and women. Report of the Twenty-Third RossRoundtable. Columbus, OH: Ross Laboratories.)

(Rennison, C. (2003, Feb).  Intimate partner violence.  Us. Dpt. of Justice/Office of Justice Programs.  NXJ 197838.
Straus, M. & Gelles, R. (1990).  Physical violence in American families.  New Brunswick, N.J.: Transaction Publishers.
Tjaden, P., & Thoennes, N. (2000).  Extent, nature, and consequences of intimate partner violence.  National Institute of Justice, NCJ 181867.)

(The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and The National Institute of Justice, Extent, Nature, and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence, July     2000. The Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Woman’s Lifespan: 1998 Survey of Women’s Health, 1999)

(Un)Broken

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As humans we are fragile. Our souls can become damaged, bruised, and broken. We pray to God for healing. We pray to become whole again. Our minds and bodies need to be reborn. God answers us.

But what happens after we are healed? We are still never the same. The cracks within the infrastructure of our soul still exist. Our minds paint a picture of ourselves as glass, with tiny lines coursing through what once seemed smooth. How do we move on? How can we exist when we still feel like broken pieces just glued back together?

Hazael Haven won’t give up. Our mission is to help women and children experiencing domestic abuse to feel whole again. We help women and children to heal, to live on. We want these women and children to find contentment and rest in Christ.  Our goal at Hazael Haven is to offer to provide biblical counseling and transition living facilities. Together, we can repaint these broken pieces of our souls to appear as stained glass. We can appear more beautiful for our pain. We can be healed and inspire others with our beauty.

Let us break the evils of domestic violence together.

Help us help these women become unbroken.

 

City of Brotherly Love, Loves Thy Neighbor

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What are you doing this summer? You can help out a good cause and have fun at the same time! Hazael Haven invites you to our Benefit Concert!

Philadelphia (May 4, 2013) – Hazael Haven will host a benefit concert this summer, July 13th, to fund their pilot project. Artists include: Stephen the Levite, Leah Smith, Tragic Hero, Melissa T, Monielle,  and house band The Lunch Box Kids.

The concert will take place at the Rotunda in Philadelphia from 8pm-10pm. Doors will open at 7pm and tickets will be sold for $10.

The benefit concert will help fund their pilot project which  will house families up until 6 months before transitioning to independent living.

Hazael Haven is a new nonprofit organization dedicated to ending domestic violence in Philadelphia. Their primary mission is to provide women and children with housing, individual/family biblical counseling, support groups, safety planning, legal aid, education, employment assistance, and referrals to resources in the community.

So mark your calendars and we will see you there!

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The link below will take you to our April newsletter!

Information can be found regarding the response to Hazael Haven, upcoming events, new programs, and positions that still need to be filled.

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Welcome to Hazael Haven!

Every woman and every child deserves a safe haven from domestic abuse.

That is our mission here at Hazael Haven. This blog will be a center for news, events, resources, and other relevant information concerning domestic violence in Philadelphia. We are glad you are here!

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