The signs of dating abuse aren’t as noticeable as bruises and beatings. If you are not aware of some of the most common signs of dating abuse, one may think this is the way a boyfriend is supposed to act.

Starting a new relationship is exciting, can be a very happy moment in your life and the start of a new chapter. However, it is very important that you know and learn the signs of an abusive relationship when first starting to date. Below, is a list of signs found in most abusive relationships. If any of these signs happen to show up in your relationship, get help.

1. Constantly Checks In on you – if your boyfriend is a sweetheart and wants to hear about your day at work or school that is absolutely fine. But, if he constantly calls you, wants a full recap or report about your every move and a description of who you have been with, then something is not right.

2. Lies To You – Honesty and trust are two of the most important characteristics to any healthy relationship. If your boyfriend is lying to you regularly and lying to you about important information you feel you should know, that relationship is not worth keeping.

3. Won’t Let You Talk To Other Guys – Remember, you can talk to whoever you want not matter their gender. If your boyfriend becomes suspicious or a little curious, then he should have a mature conversation with you. He may not dictate to you or control your behavior.

4. Loses Temper Quickly and Often – If he snaps on you about the tiniest things and then manipulates you into believing it’s your fault, something is wrong with him not you.

5. Threatens To Hurt Himself – The use of fear is a manipulation tactic. If he tells you “I’m about to drive my car in to a pole,” that is the use of fear and he is playing a game. Threats of any kind should always be taking seriously, so seek help immediately. But you do not have play his games.

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